How you view the world determines how you respond to people and situations in your life. Our view of the world is developed from birth and shaped by influential people in our environment. When we try to change our behaviour it often causes confusion, anxiety and stress because those people in our inner circle may not understand what we are trying to do – that we are trying to make the world a better place for ourselves and those dear to us. How can we change this situation so that they understand what we are trying to do?
Two things are relevant her:
- No one can change your behaviour except yourself.
- Before you can change your behaviour you have to change your mindset.
What does this mean? Do you have to change everything you know and start again from the beginning? No, of course not! But you have to be prepared to examine your thoughts and beliefs to see if there’s a better, more positive way, to approach the problem or situation. The limiting beliefs are what you have to target and change so that you can get on with believing in yourself once more.
What are limiting beliefs? Well, these are the thoughts that pop into your head that tell you “I can’t do it” or “I’m not capable of success” or “I don’t deserve it” (whatever “it” may be). These are the thoughts that limit your ability to change and grow and to become the person you truly want to be. Unless these limiting beliefs can be identified and shattered, long-term change is not possible. Change may be possible in the sort-term but it won’t be sustained. That’s way it takes 21 days to make a habit – 21 days for the neural pathways to reform into a new routine. Once you embrace the reverse notion of what we originally believed, you are able to set action plans in place to achieve your desired goal.
When you do this you:
- build on your strengths, achieving your goals much sooner than you ever imagined;
- eliminate the pain from your life, embracing success instead; and
- gain clarity of direction that propels you towards that compelling future.
Coaching has the answer. Professionally trained coaches help people identify where they want to be. They help them overcome challenges and barriers so they can move forward. Coaches stand side-by-side with their clients, supporting and motivating them to do their very best and keep striving to achieve their desired goals.